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What to Do When You Envy Others
Surely it has happened to you sometime and not necessarily only in the professional field. That is costing you a lot and another person or several nearby is going great. And although you rejoice for...
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Silencing the Quacking of Creative Jealousy
This morning the ducks were really quacking. For some reason when they fly, they never shut up. I’m sure there are lots of scientific reasons for their vocalization, but to me it reminds me of one...
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What My Fortunate Friend Taught Me About Envy
She was a petite blond with a wicked backhand. We played racquetball once a week before Covid-19. After matches, we’d chat by the water fountain. As I got to know her, I envied her. She was happily...
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Envy: It’s All in Your Head, Really!
Does the amount of money people accumulate have anything to do with their level of happiness? In his 2008 book, The Geography of Bliss: One Grump’s Search for the Happiest Places in the World, Eric...
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There’s a Dirty Word For It: Trauma Envy
Have you ever read a compelling story? So compelling that you feel breathless when you finish. You can’t believe you read all 8,000 words of it, but there you go. You stayed till the end. I just read...
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Envy and Keeping Up With the Joneses
Envy is not a rare feeling, but it’s a rarely acknowledged one. No one likes to admit they’re envious. Instead, they’ll call it some other feeling: anger, injustice, resentment, sadness, hurt,...
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How Comparing Yourself to Others Ruins Your Mental Health
When we compare ourselves to others, we create emotional pain. For creative and performing artists, the folks with whom I’ve been working for the past thirty-five years, nothing eats at them more than...
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Why It’s So Difficult To Make Positive Changes
Well, today was going to be a return to some practical topics. I’d been working on a column about approaching people and being able to talk to strangers. I had all my notes wrapped up, I had the...
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Insecure People Like To Put Others Down With Their Words — And That’s Not Cool
As someone who quits her 9–5 job in pursuit of better work life, I can’t help but feel proud every time I heard someone doing the same thing. So when I got the news that one of my ex-coworkers quit his...
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7 Deadly Sins of Marriage
The first thing I want to say is, nobody is perfect. I’m guilty and your guilty. The first step in the right direction, is to admit something, and say, “I have this issue and I’m working on it.” I am...
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The Theft of Joy: 4 Ways to Avoid the Emptiness of Envy
We are all human, and envy can pop up and rear its jealous head even with the most cool and confident of people. Social media makes comparisons easier than ever with filters and highlight reels....
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Grieving Losses
Grief…dealing with heartbreak and loss. Most of us have grieved the loss of a loved one… a pet loss, a friend, a parent, or a romantic relationship. The process doesn’t have a timeline, and all five...
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Comparing Covert vs. Grandiose Narcissists
When comparing covert vs grandiose narcissists, covert narcissists are more difficult in many ways. We can all spot those charming, attention-seeking extroverts whose vanity and boldness can be...
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Help, My Friend’s Life Makes Me Feel Worse About My Own!
Doctor’s Note: Today’s column involves discussion of sexual abuse, grooming and rape. Dear Dr. NerdLove, I’m a 39-year-old woman who didn’t lose my virginity until I was 29, and then only because I...
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Stoicism on Friendships: Beware of These 10 Types of Toxic Friends
By Martha A. Lavallie Are your friendships uplifting or draining? Stoicism, an ancient Greek philosophy, offers insights into identifying toxic relationships that can hinder personal growth and...
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Oversharing Without Context
I’m not sure I’ve ever spent this much money in such a short amount of time. Increased rent, buying a bed, sofa, dining table — furnishing adds up fast. Of course, there are also the treats one might...
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Inside Out 2: A Review, Sort of
Spoiler alert: This essay reveals (most of the) key plot points in Pixar’s Inside Out 2. Trigger alert: Discussion of panic attacks. We showed up at the theater, just the two of us, gray hair in a sea...
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How Well Do You Know Your ‘Frame?’
Friend-of-the-blog Anthony is a personal friend who read my very first articles when I shared them on Facebook. He’s seen The Best Interest grow over time. A couple of years ago, I told him that The...
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Don’t Let Life Get in the Way of Living
Today, my man and I took to the skies. It was his first time ever flying a plane. This summer, during a casual conversation, he mentioned how he’d always wanted to explore flight lessons and maybe...
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The Jealousy of Belief Systems
Jealousy of Belief Systems By Andrea Wilburn The root of jealousy Is not a bigger car or a bigger house People do not generally have the exact same dreams Of desiring the exact same possessions...
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